21 Day No-Complaining Fast


  1. Notice what complaining is. Become aware of how you affect yourself and others around you. Remember you are the one who hears yourself the most.
  2. Separate out healthy complaining from “gvetching” whining, moaning, self-flagellation, negative thinking. It is this kind of thinking and speaking that we are giving up.
  3. Healthy complaining includes “customer service complaints” which encourages appropriate assertiveness.
  4. Mourning and grieving and deep prayer are healthy forms of complaining.
  5. Replacements. The mind abhors a void. Instead of complaining:
    • Practice the Creativity Exercise.
      a) What are five possibilities not necessarily solutions to the problem?
      b) Be silly and outrageous. We are not problem solving, we are brainstorming – breaking up the blocks in our addictive thinking patterns with humor and possibility.

    • Practice the Gratitude Attitude. Gratitude is the Fountain of Healing. Say, “thank you” twice a day for that which you are truly grateful for in the moment.
      a)Thank yourself
      b) Thank another person out-loud
      c) Thank God
      No gratitude is too big or too small.

Notice the changes that you go through as you give up this addiction. You will truly free yourself and open yourself and others to creative possibility. Complaining is the Number #1 addiction. It brings you down and inhibits creativity. This process works by awareness. Each time you notice that you are complaining – you must go back to Day 1 and start over. Rather than being discouraging you probably will begin to feel so much better, that the intrinsic good feelings of freedom will make you want to forge ahead.